Complainers. How many of us know them? How many of us find ourselves doing it? Well STOP! If you don't like something, then fix it right? If it is impossible to be fixed, then learn to deal with it and accept it for what it is.
I've learned the hard way several times and I still learn something new on this topic every day. We ALL are guilty of having these days or moments. It happens, but I'm here to say you can change it. YOU are the only one in control of your life. You don't like something? Then figure out a way to change it or accept it. There is always a way!
Everyone is familiar with the saying "It happens in three's," right? Well think about it...Say you wake up in the morning and you spill your coffee all over your brand new outfit. You get mad. You get so mad, that you forgot to grab your lunch for work, so now you have to spend money. You get mad. Then while on the way to work, you get in a fender bender because you aren't focusing on the road because your so mad about everything else. That's three things before you even make it to work. Can you imagine how the rest of your day is going to go? Probably not all that great, right?
Now say all of those things happen, but instead of getting mad you find the positive out of it. So, lets say the coffee spills on the outfit, maybe that outfit just wasn't meant to be. Maybe the coffee spilling on it was a sign that it wasn't appropriate for work (Believe me I've seen some interesting definitions of what "business casual" means). That coffee spilling is a second chance at a new outfit for the day. What about lunch you ask? Well, maybe you have a couple dollars and can make it a cheat meal for the week. Maybe that one meal will be your splurge and then you get back on track for the rest of the week (I've had to do this, that's why I'm using it as an example lol). As for the fender bender, yeah it sucks. Not gonna lie to you, but maybe there was something wrong with the spot that got hit. Maybe there was a dent there before or a paint issue and now it's going to be fixed. If none of those things work, then try this.....
For every negative thing that happens to you, find something positive to remind you that it's ok. When you get to work, check all of that baggage at the door and focus on the task in front of you. Everything happens in three's. One positive thought will lead to another and another and so on. Get what I'm trying to say yet????
Negative things happen. Sometimes its in your control and sometimes it's not. I know the last two posts have had the vibe of getting negative things out of your head, but I really think it's a bigger battle then what people lead on and that's why I'm writing a second post about it. Society can seriously drain the happiness from your life...if you let it.
Whatever happens to you, remember complaining gets you nowhere. Being negative gets you nowhere. Optimism and happiness will take quite a bit further. Why you ask? Because people are more willing to be your friend and help you when you are more cooperative. When you give off the vibe that yeah things happen, but I'm ok, people will respect that a lot more than the woe is me act. No one is a victim unless you want to make yourself one. Again, it's your life. You control it. I've said it before and I will say it again, you were given two feet. If you were meant to deal with the same thing every day and be stuck in the same situation every day, you would've been made with roots to keep you in the ground in the same spot. Keep moving! Keep going!
~Ditty
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